Comments on: What are ways to be considerate and less selfish overall to save my relationship with my boyfriend? http://www.howtosaverelationship.org/how-to-save-relationship/what-are-ways-to-be-considerate-and-less-selfish-overall-to-save-my-relationship-with-my-boyfriend/ Everything you Need to Know about Saving your Relationship Fri, 17 Jun 2011 01:30:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: seamstress http://www.howtosaverelationship.org/how-to-save-relationship/what-are-ways-to-be-considerate-and-less-selfish-overall-to-save-my-relationship-with-my-boyfriend//comment-page-1#comment-24 seamstress Mon, 15 Mar 2010 23:21:07 +0000 #comment-24 First of all, one of the first sentences after your question, you say "I need to change for him". Changing for anyone other than yourself is never, ever a successful idea. You either change for yourself or do not bother at all. Changing for someone else never lasts because you are doing it for the wrong reason to begin with. You need to change your ways. Not only for him, but for your quality of life and for everyone who is subjected to your bitchiness. You have become untrustworthy as far as your word is concerned. If you want to gain respect, you have to do what you say and say what you do. Honesty goes a long way for creditability. Try it, you'll see. First of all, one of the first sentences after your question, you say "I need to change for him". Changing for anyone other than yourself is never, ever a successful idea. You either change for yourself or do not bother at all. Changing for someone else never lasts because you are doing it for the wrong reason to begin with. You need to change your ways. Not only for him, but for your quality of life and for everyone who is subjected to your bitchiness.

You have become untrustworthy as far as your word is concerned. If you want to gain respect, you have to do what you say and say what you do. Honesty goes a long way for creditability. Try it, you’ll see.

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